[US] - "My 5 Biggest Fears About Surrogacy (And How I Overcame Them)" by Jerry Mahoney

When my partner Drew and I decided to have a baby, we had so many reservations about surrogacy, we initially didn’t even consider it.

As we investigated other routes to parenthood for same-sex couples, we learned that every method involves its own pitfalls, heartbreaks and great expense, so there was no easy road to choose.

Most foreign countries with a surplus of adoptable children don’t allow gays to adopt. Domestic adoption is complicated, too. Some birth mothers reconsider their decision to give up their baby, leaving would-be parents crushed. Foster children can be reunited with their own families. Even when you’re raising a kid who’s been with you since birth, legal struggles can tie up your parental rights for years.

We eventually realized that, no matter which path we chose, the road ahead would be bumpy.

That’s when we gave surrogacy a more serious look, and we found that the main fears that scared us away from it were all unfounded.

Here’s what we were afraid of — and what we learned.

1. FEAR: The surrogate will want to keep the baby.

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